Rule #2- Location, Location, Location


You have procured your target, the cute broody one  in the corner.

Now, you have already mastered the art of flirting.  You might think me old fashioned, but I like to be asked out. I like to be the one who is taken on a date and pampered!

But how do you get the date? How do you orchestrate the moment, giving the perfect opening to be asked out?

Well, I’m glad you asked!

First of all, what is location? It is the distance between you and the object of your affections, and your physical location.

The Rules Of Location

What can you do?

1. Suggest a walk. A simple, “I need fresh air, wanna come?”, will suffice. It will give him the space he needs to go for it.

2. How far apart are you? Keep close by him if you are walking, same goes for if you are sitting down (don’t sit on his lap, just pulling your chair closer to his is fine). This will create a greater intimacy between the two of you.

3. Be laid back, reflecting that you are relaxed and enjoying yourself in the other person’s company (those beads of sweat are NOT as sexy as you think they are).

4. Allow gaps in the conversation, lead him into asking you out.

For example:

You: “Wow, I can’t believe how early I have to get up for work tomorrow”

Him: “Do you have a busy schedule?”

You: “Not too bad, a little busy, but I still have free time”- see, opening! 

Openings are super important, they allow you to steer the conversation in a direction that you want, and allow him to ask you out (you may have to give him more than one opening… ).  If you can control the situation, what you are basically doing is all the heavy lifting, you are setting up the stage for him to ask you out. You have made it a safe environment for him to be forward.

Practise with your friends, see if you can manipulate the conversation into going the way YOU want it to. The art of controlling a conversation is not an easy one, but it is also a great ability and an important skill.


  1. Oh dear, those lines, just love it. I’m no longer in the dating scene but I’m glad you are providing words of wisdom for others. I think I will share these with the third generations in my family. Priceless.

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