We all do it! Say one thing but mean another; send someone mixed signals. Half the time we don’t even realize what we are up to; but nonetheless, we are sending off confusing messages to the other person.
One minute you are REALLY into him
And the next, you’re not so sure…
You can’t make up your mind, so instead, you confuse the hell out of the poor bugger…
Not being sure is part of dating, but there is a big difference between not being sure and driving the other person to the brink of insanity.
So, here are some helpful tips to help with your crossed wires problem.
Rules Of Being Clear:
1. Either keep it to yourself or break up with him! If you are not certain that he is what you are looking for, take a few days to mull it over or end it! Leaving him hanging is unfair to him, and in the long run will damage your relationship (uncertainty gnaws away at the two of you like flesh-eating bacteria).
2. Speak your mind about the things that bother you, but phrase it in a way that’s productive; meaning:
Don’t start the conversation off with: I’m not sure about you… Or, I’m having doubts about us…
Talk about the real problems you’re having and try to work through them.
3. Men can’t read our minds (shocking, I know, but turns out they really can’t) and they don’t always know what’s going on up there; so your mixed signals just come across as you playing games with them.
Men do NOT find the following things fun: Mind games, guessing games and hot and cold games.
(However, if your secret pleasure in life is playing games, try strip poker; it has a much more fun payoff in the end)