There comes a time in every new relationship, when we forget about “having an early meeting”, or some other lame excuse involving not having any clean clothes. At this point we want to stay in bed with our newly acquired other person, and just share body heat.
At this point of the relationship, you are probably still wearing really tiny underwear and shaving your legs.
To each their own preferred method of cuddling; all are valid, and all mean that you are at that point where you feel comfortable enough with the other person, to not only sleep with them, but to sleep next to them.
Now, we all know how it goes; the first sleep over you pretend that you always sleep naked or in your satin nightie, and two months later its disappeared and you’re back to your old, favourite, t-shirt and shorts.
But, at least for the beginning, it’s good to stick to a few simple rules that will help you make each other feel a little more comfortable.
Rules For Adult Sleepovers:
1. If it’s at your place; he still feels like a guest in YOUR house; treat him that way. Keep an extra toothbrush, show him where things are, make him feel like he isn’t a naked house invader.
You don’t have to cater, but a pot of coffee and some toast in the morning will go a long way.
2. If it’s at his place; bring whatever you need, but don’t leave anything at his place unless, you are staying the night NOT moving in!
3. Sleepovers are also when you start to discover “fun” little things you didn’t know about one another. You will also have to get used to another persons sleeping habits (like, sleepwalking or blanket stealing; something I am usually guilty of).
But if you really like the person you will be able to find a solution; such as sleeping with two blankets or ear plugs.
4. Don’t forget, these are your first steps into each others personal spaces and worlds, so be RESPECTFUL and take it slowly. Make sure you are both comfortable and in the same place (for this, you will unfortunately need to talk to each other).