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A few months into the new relationship, somewhere between great sex and late night TV marathons, we suddenly lose the will to ever leave the house (or his house). You suddenly begin to notice how comfy his new sofa is and the thought of getting dressed up and hanging out in bars seems foreign and another lifetime ago.
Why put on your adorable new heels when you can soak your feet in his tub instead?
So you slowly slip into a routine of early dinners and hanging out on the couch. You don’t talk to your friends as much, and late nights out suddenly seem a whole lot less attractive.
Now, this may not be such a bad thing; it means you are most likely in a great place as a couple and enjoying one another’s company. But there are also a few downsides new couples tend to overlook. These include;
Not making time for your friends, because of a new boyfriend, means that if something goes wrong in your love nest, they won’t necessarily want to make time for you.
Not going out means that you’re spending WAY TOO MUCH TIME indoors; it’s healthy to get out of the house, even if it’s just for fresh air and ice cream.
So, how much cuddling is too much?
Rules For Snuggling:
1. Hang out with ‘the girls’ one or two nights a week. Encourage him to hang with his friends (so that they can watch sports or give each other facials; or whatever it is men do when they’re alone).
That way, you will be able to come home to each other and have lots to share about your evenings (I mean if you spend 24/7 together what will you have to talk about? You were both there!).
2. Go out together, even if you have been dating for a while, it’s still good to get out of bed! Go out with other couples/friends.
3. Don’t let yourselves fall into a boring rut; cook together, read books to one another; find things you both like to do that involve interaction and not the television.
4. Make time to have sex! Why? Because it’s fun, healthy and keeps the intimacy alive. (Also, make time to snuggle with each other after; its proven to reduce stress and cholesterol).
Good advice, important things to remember!
Not angering your friends is priority #1!
How did you discover about our secret facials? What happens in the man cave …
A good writer never gives up the name of her source! (;
All good things to remember! Having gone through the relationship rut, i’ve learnt all these things. Esp the friends point because when you need them, you want them to be there & you might need to talk to them about your relationship without them being bitter about it haha.
the “new couple isolation from friends” factor reminds me of the episode of sex & the city where carrie hibernates with aleksandr petrovsky! and i hate cuddling! i wrote about it here! (haha!).
http://nicoleandgwendolyn.com/2011/09/29/the-ex-bulimic-on-dating-sex-and-sharing/
“Hotel Petrovsky!” O how I love that season (:
But yes I agree and will check out your post on it.
yes! love!
my favourite season = two.
i shall love sex and the city forever and ever and ever and ever! xx
Hahaha most defiantly (:
wise words indeed !!
Sums it up nicely. I like your black and white photos throughout – crisp and inviting
Thank you! (:
haha so true! i recently discovered that it can def be fun and exciting to to out to bars as a couple. there’s less pressure b/c you know who your going home w so u can just relax, and it’s more fun too b/c u can laugh at all the crazy drunk people w/ your honey! :p
Lol this is so ture. I loved this. I got so boring after a while and I stopped going out to the bar and hanging out with some of my gf’s because I was a “snuggle” addict. This post made me smile!
Snuggling is VERY addictive (;
Great list . . . FRESH AIR is great for us. It get rid of the cobwebs.
I can really relate to this one.