I promise I won’t try and convince you to overrun your bedroom with silicone toys, or turn it into leather dungeon (unless of course, you are into that!). Now, don’t get me wrong, one on one, no appliances involved sex, is awesome; but even the best sex life can use the occasional spice. Keeping things interesting has a bit of a taboo; are the two of us not enough? But if you can get past that initial worry, you will discover you can have quite a bit of fun experimenting with new things.
(And if you don’t like it, you never have to do it again!)
So take this opertunity to unleash (or leash) your racy side.
Rules for Bedroom Banter:
1. Create a safe atmosphere, where you can tell one another what really gets your blood racing, and what new things you would like to try.
(That said, it is still unwise to spring it on him that you have a secret S&M fetish. You might need some build up to that).
That also means, you have to be accepting of whatever strange thing he admits to fantasising about. Keep an open mind.
2. If it’s toys you’re after, do your research! Make sure they are from body safe materials and from a licensed company and shop. Trust me, you can be cheap everywhere else, but NOT here.
Go to a ‘woman friendly’ shop; not one of those sleazy porn dens that sell a couple of toys for ambiance. The most important thing is that YOU are BOTH comfortable with the place.
3. Have fun! If you’re not enjoying yourself it defies the whole exercise!
4. Start off slow; find something new you would both like to try. Have a glass or two of wine before to relax.