Text messages can be very annoying; they are ambiguous, convoluted, and you can never be certain of what the other person really meant. They don’t convey anger, insult or a joking manner.
I personally dislike messaging for fear of deadly misunderstandings and other mishaps. That aside, I would like to address one particular phenomenon; the modern mating cry, otherwise know as, ‘the booty call’ (or text).
Last week I had just nestled into bed, it was after midnight, and my cell beeped; “awake?” The male in question is a happily attached guy friend of mine; who honestly just wanted to chat. I don’t blame his ‘innocence’ on the subject; text messaging is the wild west of inter-human communication, the grey area of relationships.
Whether you are dating, undefined, or just “getting coffee” at three am, you may be a victim of unintentional sexting.
Rules for Clear Cellular Communication:
1. Unless your looking to sleep with the other person (which is also fine), don’t text them after midnight.
(There are extenuating circumstances to this, like: you are walking home and it’s pitch black outside and you think someone is following you).
2. Add smilies/winks/sad faces when you’re messaging. It may seem silly, but it helps convey emotions better and can save you a lot of grief.
4. If, like me, you too have a confused male friend who texts you at all hours of the night (and subsequently pisses off your boyfriend); break it to him gently that it is inappropriate.
(This also means you have to abide by your own rules).
5. If you are having casual sex, make sure that you are both clear about the nature of the relationship.
The more open you are about this with each other, the less of a chance you have of getting hurt.