I’m back! Did you miss me? I’m sorry for my long absence; I decided to take myself off to The Alps for a well needed winter vacation.
Snow is so wonderful, but now, back to reality.
A few weeks ago, a girlfriend and I got all sassed up and went out. It was one of those dimly lit kind of joints, and we sat down on the bar. Opposite us, were two guys, and one of them spiked my friend’s interest.
She waited for the opportune moment, picked up her drink, and went over to chat. He was cute, funny, and they hit it off right away. It was getting late, and I was ready to head out. But instead of asking her for her cell number, he asked her for her FaceBook username.
She refused to give it to him and offered her phone number instead; which he graciously accepted.
There is no question that social networks have brought about huge changes. Suddenly, private information is so assessable. Our lives are under the ever scrutinizing eyes of our piers. But what do these changes mean for our love lives?
How does your relationship with your facebook affect your relationship with your partner?
Rules for Internet Accessible Dating:
1. Don’t make your on-line profile available to anyone you’re dating unless you are comfortable with them, and you trust them. In my opinion, adding someone to your FaceBook is just like giving them permission to legally stalk you.
If you do choose to approve them, at the very least, consider that you are giving someone new full admission into your life; be certain that you are ready for that.
2. It’s kind of ironic, that while F.B is so much more personal than your phone number, getting asked out via message is so impersonal. Pick up the phone and call!
3. I feel like the right time to change your status from ‘single’ to ‘getting some’, should be just around the time when you are planning your wedding (and that’s just because it’s easier than calling everyone up to tell them the good news).
There are a few good reasons for this: A. When you get your heartbroken, you do not want it splashed all over the internet.
B. Think of the people you’re friends with. Do you really want your boss knowing every little detail of your private life?! (Or for that matter, your mum, who just learned how to turn on her computer. She thinks she is private messaging you, but is really posting on your wall; wanting to know what happened to that lovely boy you brought home for the holidays).
c. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, wants to see you two kissing in the five-hundred photos you took on your ‘romantic getaway’. Dial down the PDA.
While the internet used to be a small medium, open to only one or two hundred of our closest friends, it is now much more public than that.
We should be keeping a much closer eye on who we let into our lives, even our virtual ones.