The Book

The Big Book of Dating is a relationship and dating advice blog, and a practical guide for dating.

The book is the fruit of a lot of bad choices: some mine, some other peoples’. Life is about games, whether it is catch when we are young or job interviews when we are older. Every one has its own unique set of rules that sometimes we just don’t get. Dating is just like any other game. It has rules, some of them vital and some of them just plain stupid.

Haven’t you just wished, once, that someone would  freakin’ write them down for you?

Well, the Big Book Of Dating Rules did!

This isn’t exact science, it isn’t always correct, but for those who have no idea that they are losing the match on a playing field they didn’t even know existed, it’s a great place to start.

The Author

The Author

Disclaimer: Some of the photographs on The Big Book of Dating are taken from various websites and do not belong to me. All are linked and credited to the best of my abilities in the hope of attracting more traffic to the websites and photographers who have blessed me with there imagery. If there is a photo included here that belongs to you and you want it removed, please email seventh.moon [at] yahoo dot com and it will be removed promptly, no questions asked.

As for my own photos. You are welcome to use any of my photos,  but please make sure you give photo-credit and link it back to The Book.


  1. It’s a great concept, and delightfully written with an amusing style. I’m not in the room for dating but it makes interesting reading just the same – pity it’s too many decades too late!

  2. Hello!

    Just wanted to pop over and say thanks for the “like”! I was wondering what you liked about the post? Your site is super fun and informative – bravo!

    Carrie @Digibungalow

  3. I think you’re doing a great job here. The writing is right on and the photography is excellent. The best thing about Black & White photography is that the picture is about the story and not about the picture itself. I’ll be telling others about your work here.

  4. Thanks for the Like for my Crossings site.
    Though I am thirty years removed from dating, having been with my wife since 1981, I find your articles amusing. Did you ever consider having a humorous single male writer contribute “guest” articles?
    I generally dislike the ideas behind Feminist or Masculist viewpoints because they only encourage “us and them” divisions and delusions, rather than promoting a balanced, Humanist view. We are all Homo Sapiens Sapiens, though we may all display different aspects of being human.
    Of course, finding the right male guest writer might turn out to be as difficult as finding the right partner through the process of dating, heh, heh…

  5. Oh how I love your blog. I’ve only read 4 posts and I can’t stop laughing/agreeing with every single word. I had a similar blog but mine was just moaning about things rather than providing rules and alterations; your version is much better. Can’t wait to read more.

  6. Since I’m dating my adorable Sniglet, who lives next door, and we like to sniff each others’ butts – it’s OK, we’re both canines – I think these rules don’t apply. We’re both all paws when it comes to texting and stuff like that, but, I WILL pass your blog along to those 2-legged animals who need all the help they can get! Great job! Thanks for visiting my place!

    Arrooooo! Stuart

  7. Thanks for liking my post “Hawaiian Misadventure”! :-) I’m happily married, and haven’t been involved with the world of dating for many years, but I’m sure there’s lots of interesting reading here, and I’ll check it out.

  8. Hey there – I noticed you stopped-by my blog today…thank you for letting me know you were there! And what an interesting site you have here…quite a niche-filler! Good job!

  9. OMG I had been searching for you! I am flattered that you read and like my articles, think my work as worth investing your time!

    Thankyou so much!
    Hemul Goel
    Fashion Editor,The Saltlist

  10. Thanks for stopping by my blog! I just read through some of your posts and really enjoyed them (although I’m out of the dating game; been happily married for almost 5 years). I love how you find the perfect pictures to go along with the text – so funny!

  11. You know, I hate this book. Simply because it is true and because I am a total idiot when it comes to such things. Rachel McAdam’s character in Morning Glory? That initial date-scene? That’s me. When she gets the hot successful charming dreamy good guy to date her and she sprints? That’s me too.

    That said, this isn’t a book about relationships, it’s about dating. And dating is some tricky waters to navigate my friend! Especially with generation gaps! Just for fun (or for a spike in your self esteem) try going on a date with someone of a different generation… Wow. These days, it’s perfectly acceptable to BBM or whatever at the table. What the hell?

    Anyway, this was my round about way of saying, your book is so starkly TRUE! Keep the posts coming. Thank you :)

  12. Hej from Sweden!
    Wow !! Thanks for clicking the “LIKE” button on my most recent post ” A Night at the Opera” So glad you enjoyed it. I think your blog is really great. I am going to pass it along to my daughter and others that I am sure would enjoy it.
    Thanks again!
    You are most welcome back!

  13. Thanks for stopping by and liking my blogs on the tall ship and the day on the beach! I have not had to date for over 38 years because I married John when I was 19. But I love the idea that it plays by the rules. Good luck with finding a player who knows these!

  14. Thanks for checking out my blog and “liking” it. I am happily married but wish I would have had your blog to read years ago when I was single:) You’ve got some good stuff here and I like your humorous approach to it. Single people are lucky to have this blog:)

  15. Hey, thanks for stopping by to read (and like) my blog, I was starting to think people just weren’t interested in photography (well, my photography anyway). I’ve subscribed to your blog and from what I’ve read so far I’m sure I’ll be back later.

    Tom :)

  16. Hi – thanks for the “Like” on project50. Your blog made me smile, especially “hone your gaydar”. I love that sexuality is so much more openly talked about than it was when I was a teen. Looking back, it explains so much about a very unhappy girl in my class at school. I wish I’d had the insight to be a good friend to her.

  17. Your blog is very interesting. I like that you add black and white pictures. It makes it nicer to look at and more fun to read. Thanks for visiting my blog and for the liking my post! I’ll be visiting this big book of dating every so often. :)

  18. What a fun, creative concept and a cool, witty way with words you have here!

    I just dropped by to thank you for liking my recent post, my first for while I’m 54 and writing about all things Mexico.

    Thanks! :)

  19. I really like your blog;) I know you’re not a psychologist or crazy and I don’t wanna ask my friends for this advice because I know how the teenager brain works (not right) so I wanted to ask…

    So I was in my fourth period talking to my friends about my bf and my relationship and I we were laughing and I was feeling okay when I knew my bf in his class above mine was debating whether or not to break up with me…and he was laughing and talking to his friends too. Does that mean we don’t really love each other? Or does mean anything at all? (sorry if that’s a stupid question) I just wanna know…because I don’t know if we’re supposed to feel sad or not…please help

  20. What a very neat idea, to go black-and-white on this topic! And the oldie photos add a lovely soft humour to your entries. Keep on enjoying your blog, it comes across.

  21. Please ignore and sorry if you don’t participate in these but: Hi! I nominated you for the Sunshine Award!
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  22. Thank you for liking my post! Your blog is so much fun to read and so practical! I’m sure a lot people go “I wish I had known that at the that time!” :)

  23. What a great idea for a blog! We can all use advice and reminders on how to be (or not be) in a relationship. Thank you for stopping by Travel Oops and liking the story about asking for directions!

  24. Hi, I just wanted to say thanks for stopping by and “liking” one of my posts. I’m not much of a dater myself, but this site is like a great chick-lit book or romantic comedy. Much obliged, and keep up the good work! :-)

  25. I stumbled across your blog after you “liked” one of my posts, and I’m so glad you did. This blog is great! I love your dating advice. It’s fresh, useful and a great read especially with the pics. I added you to my google reader! Look forward to reading more from the Big Book of Dating.

  26. Thanks for stopping by my blog and liking the post on great thrift shop finds. I hope you are able to browse through the archives sometime, try out a few recipes, and let me know what you think of them. I’m always looking for ways to improve them.

  27. Thanks for checking out my blog and liking my post. As a male in my 20s, reading thoughts on dating from a female perspective has been both entertaining and informative. I look forward to your future posts!

  28. Thanks for stopping by! I loved going through your blog, you’re incredibly good and entertaining -and also very very right, whatever you say! I’m having a blast reading some of your posts :) Keep up the good work, I’m following now!
    Love, Anna

  29. Have you ever written on the topic of exes? When is it OK to try again? Is it ever OK to try again? Will it ever work out if it didn’t the first time? What if you both still love each other?

    Thanks for putting this blog out there!

  30. Sorry for the late response, thanks for liking my post. I’m a newbie so I appreciate people taking the time to look through my blog and find a post that they like. It let’s me know what I should keeping doing on my blog. :)

  31. Hi, thanks for stopping by and liking “For the Love of…Rabbits”! Although I have been married for 23 years something tells me there are still things I can learn from your blog.


  32. This site is tight! It has a super clean look, fine tuned niche’, and great writing. Loving he pictures.
    A dating blog with class…didn’t know such a thing existed. Nice work!

  33. Great initiative of you . I can only learn , relax and enjoy your images. I started to follow and will be glad to receive new post. See you soon. Can I invite you to mine to ? be welcome if you like to do so.

  34. Thanks for visiting The List. I’m so glad I returned the favor! What a fun way to tackle an otherwise sensitive subject. Written like you’re talking directly to me and, for the record, I really appreciate the advice! I’ll definitely be back.

  35. Hello! Thanks for stopping by and liking my post. While I am a big fan of loving relationships (being married and such), I am not, however, a big fan of rules. Like a beautiful waltz, I prefer to take each step in my relationship as naturally unplanned and left to the joy and ever exciting unknown. -fn

  36. hey thanks for stopping by and liking my post :) Your blog topic sounds like an ambitious project…I mean how does one write a big book of dating? I would assume since all of us are learning something new everyday, that the Rules would be never ending. I like it though. Hope to read more.

  37. Thank you so much for visiting my blog, I’m glad you enjoyed my photos of ‘this green and pleasant land’ :-) Great blog you have here! What a wonderful idea, if only The book had existed a few decades ago…sigh! I hope you will visit my blog again, I certainly look forward to reading more of your yours. Have a great day!

  38. The design is beautiful. I am jealous. How did you do this? But the words are brilliant, good for you for putting it all out there. I am going to “share” your blog if you don’t mind. Thank you.

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