There comes a time in every relationship when you meet your significant other’s significant other- their flat.
Now don’t get me wrong, this requires very little to no effort on your part (well, maybe stash a toothbrush in your purse/coat pocket just to be on the safe side).
For such occasions I have a little prayer. I prey that his apartment doesn’t look like a crack den, that my date had the common decency to tidy up the place, and hide his porn. That there is a role of toilet paper in the bathroom (you know what some men are like when they’ve been living alone for too long). I hope that there are clean sheets on the bed (and for that matter, that he has a bed, and not some mattress on the floor).
Honestly, the list goes on, but the bottom line is this. I judge. We all judge, and it is really hard to get a second chance at a first impression.
Just like we expect one another to make a little effort to clean up for a first date, we expect the person we are seeing to make their flat presentable when we see it for the first time.
But it goes both ways.
Don’t be THE PERSON who’s place looks like it’s come alive out of an episode of hoarders.
Rules for Apartment-Scaping:
1. First of all, read this brilliant blog-post, it will teach you how to make your home date-friendly within ten minutes.
2. Follow rule #1 and clean up! You don’t have to light scented candles and strategically place quantum mechanics & philosophy books to impress your date.
But you SHOULD make sure the place is clean and tidy.
This will make a good first impression.
3. We all have jobs/studies/time consuming hobbies/friends/pets, and other responsibilities.
No one expects you to keep your place spotless and immaculate at all times, you don’t live in an Ikea catalog! But basic hygiene isn’t too much to ask for (lets face it, no one is going to want to have sex with you for the first time if your bed-sheets are covered in suspicious stains…)
You know, deal with the mold in the shower, change the sheets, wash your towels, & for heavens sake, clean the toilet and kitchen!
4. The real problem with having too much stuff, and having it all over the place, is that it makes someone new feel like there is no room for them.
Remember all those photos with your ex in Bali? The ones you’ve been meaning to take down for months? Maybe this is a great opportunity to do it.
Just like we try and unclutter ourselves emotionally before a new relationship, uncluttering our house is equally as important!
Make room for your someone new.